Kids Today Are Going To Live Shorter Lives Than Their Parents.
Yes, it’s true. The reality of the modern diet and lifestyle is that we have, as a society, created such a toxic soup of poor food, absent nutrition, excessive stress and sleep deprivation that it is quite literally a cocktail for reducing the lifespan of your kids – a process that is referred to as d’evolution.
Although I’m talking in broad terms about the species, the reality is that this has developed due to the recipes and food beliefs & behaviours that occur in each individual home… and the kids learn how to engage with their food, their emotions and how to manage their own health and wellbeing by looking up to the adults in their home.
The Cost To Your Self-Neglect
Now I know Mum guilt is real so it’s important to understand that putting your kids first is of course what mother’s are meant to do. The catch is that the modern day life is moving at such a blistering pace that putting the kids first means that you often entirely sacrifice yourself in order to get them to their school, their sport, their music lessons, their friends, and all of the other things that happen in their world. Because in our modern society there is so much opportunity, of course you want to make sure they get to all the things they can fit in.
So, your self-care routine, spa days, massages, catching up with friends or whatever you like to do, usually goes out the window. Maybe it’s been gone for more than 10 years! You might feel that this is part of the cost of being a mother and you know, as a man that hasn’t passed a human through my vagina, the truth is I can’t really comment. But there is something I want to point out that, as a mum, I think you’re going to want to know.
There is actually a cost to giving up your self-care.
And it’s not what you think.
Prioritising everyone before yourself like the kids, the hubby, your mother or anyone else, isn’t just leading to the weight gain that creeps up every year, or the energy that plummets mid afternoon or the sex drive and confidence in your body that has seemingly evaporated (something you chalk up to “this is what happens at this stage of life”. No. There is a bigger cost.
It’s the health of your children.
How Can We Help You With This?
Does this mean that you become a self care camel and take everything for yourself, neglecting everyone else – of course not – how else would the house function without you?!
It does however mean that learning strategies to make space for yourself amidst the chaotic nature of family life allows for you to begin to lose weight and start feeling more stable energy levels but more importantly it shows your kids that taking time to look after their own wellbeing is an important practice to establish for themselves. And as you start getting confidence in your body back and feeling that sex drive return, you start showing up better, not just for yourself, but for the kids and for the people that you love.
As Eleanor Bowns says, “self care is not selfish, you cannot serve from an empty vessel”.
If you know your family and kids need you to be healthy then it’s time to put yourself first and embody that healthy role model in the home then I have a system that can support you to get your body back without feeling guilty about it – I’m in your corner the whole time. Just shoot the word ‘Transform’ to me on FB messenger to start a convo with me and we’ll see if we’re a good fit – you can easily reach me by clicking the orange button below, chat soon!